Behind The Smile

They've said that most people who've cracked a smile are often veneering their truest emotions. They conceal it in hopes that people will not know their truth, because the Truth HURTS! They hate to display emotion so they are not perceived as vulnerable and weak. They launder the reality they feel about others... they hate them but... Continue Reading →

Behind The Scenes

Presuming that everyone has had a glimpse of the behind the scenes of their favorite role model or movie, you know that there had to be some major setback at some point in time.  And you know there was some unexpected stumbling that appeared. The best movie, broadway show or fashion show, exhibits the most chaotic backstage.  But... Continue Reading →

Dear Privileged Woman

Dear Privileged Woman,  I know it's been out for debate whether you are a woman of privilege or not.  I know that you are unaware of my fellow Black Women's struggle.  I know... I don't fault you for it.  It isn't fair to call you ignorant for not knowing. But as of yesterday, I want you to open... Continue Reading →

Dear Married & Masturbating

Dear Married & Masturbating, Yeah yeah, I know... I know your marriage bed is undefiled.  But trading a penis for plastic is not the way to go.  You've neglected your husband and clung to sex toys because you've suffered and endured a boring and unsatifiying sex life for too long.  I hear you!  May I offer a word... Continue Reading →

Dear Lesbian – Woman with Pride

Dear Lesbian - Woman with Pride, Homosexuality used to be the best-kept secret; an embarrassment to most and a guilty pleasure to few.  Then it became a trend; it was what everyone talked about.  But we were not ready for what it has become today; a way of life to many.  We weren’t prepared to live with the differences of... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman Dropping the Charges

Dear Woman Dropping the Charges, It may take some time before you are granted forgiveness and clemency.  You’ve sullied a man’s character and defamed his reputation.  Now he must live with a mark of disgrace; the dagger is that he is innocent.  He knows it, God knows it, and you know it. Yes!  You’ve dropped the charges.  Yes, you’ve recanted... Continue Reading →

Dear Mom

Dear Mommie,My beloved mom, I never got to tell you this because oddly enough I thought I would always have the time...but, thank you for keeping me.  I’m forever angry with time as it robbed me of so much.  I constantly drown myself in tears hoping I could share so many more days with you. Knowing... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with Mommy Issues

Dear Woman with Mommy Issues,  The way you carry the load of knowing the woman who carried you for 9 months didn't want you, and till this day still doesn't want you, is quite remarkable.  And I know Mother's Day must be the worst day for you.  Though you look courageous and unfluctuating on the outside, on the... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman Next Door

Dear Woman Next Door, If walls could talk… you would hear sooo much - the whispers of steamy sex, old wives tales, juicy gossip, secrets unveiling, unsatisfactory shady approvals... There is so much to be learned behind closed doors.  Since you are listening behind her walls, I hope we can put your curiosity to good... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman Craving Acceptance

Dear Woman Craving Acceptance,  You know, if I can dare be frank with you, we ALL either have been there or are there right now.  So, you're not alone.  We all long to be accepted and loved by others.  No matter the color, creed or culture, we thirst to be deemed adequate and suitable.  Unfortunately, for some of... Continue Reading →

Dear Untamed Tongue

Dear Untamed Tongue, For too long you've allowed your untamed tongue to destroy people's confidence and damage hearts.  I know they say the tonality matters, that is true.  But sis, words hurt!!  Words cut deeper than your tone of voice ever could.  Words do far more damage than a stare.  Words spoken are never forgotten.   Being vocal and assertive is a beautiful... Continue Reading →

Dear Preggo

Dear Preggo,You’re the real MVP!  As a result of overfamiliarity, you definitely go without being properly appreciated.  At times you go uncared for, unheard and unappreciated.  We don’t thank you enough for your sacrifice.  You sacrifice your body, your career, and at times you sacrifice your life. We don’t thank you enough for your willingness to embark on the journey.  We've... Continue Reading →

Dear Me Too

Dear Me Too, Way too many of us have been suffering in silence.  We've accepted and allowed silence to be a weapon to cripple us.  Meanwhile, the most potent weapon we own is our voice.  It is time to use our voice to free us; indict and incarcerate the assailant.  What's the point of owning a weapon if we are... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman With the Fibroids

Dear Woman With the Fibroids, I know you are exhausted from looking pregnant when you are not.  I know how hard it is having people ask you how many months you are when you are not.  Now you struggle how to respond.  Tell them, “It is not Grace, its Grease.”  Smile!  Tell them you are bloated.  Or be honest... Continue Reading →

Dear Ugly Woman

Dear Ugly Woman, “Whatcha talkin' bout Willis?”  Girl, don’t let people tell you that you’re ugly and don’t you dare be the one to say it to yourself either! I must agree; we aren’t all equally beautiful.  Some are prettier than others.  But that doesn't mean “u ugly.”  Have you ever taken the time to consider what this World... Continue Reading →

Dear Saved, Single & Satisfied

Dear Saved, Single & Satisfied,  You go girl!!! Ain’t nothing wrong with being saved, single and satisfied.  Don't let picture-perfect people pressure you.  Some women fall into these traps and they feel scant, sad, sorrowful.  There are some women who are Saved, Married & Miserable.  You don't want that.  You're SavedYou're Single and you're...SatisfiedSufficient Sane That's a win - Okuuuurrrr!... Continue Reading →

Dear Grieving Woman

Dear Grieving Woman,  Every five minutes you have a cluster of foreign emotions you're experiencing.  Just when you thought you've come to a moment of peace, another grief-stricken emotion walks through the door.  You have lost 50% of yourself and you can never get it back.  Losing a mother is tormenting; for the lack of a better word.  It... Continue Reading →

Dear Terrified One

Dear Terrified One, Someone once said, "The higher your climb, the better the view.”  Come on girl, get up here.  The view just keeps getting better and better.  Don't be afraid to do it.  Caution is good... but too much caution causes you never to amount to much. But on your way up, be sure not to take unnecessary weights... Continue Reading →

Dear Lady with the Toxic Family

Dear Lady with the Toxic Family, By now I know that you are tired of your family and all the anxiety they trigger.  Family is important so I could never tell you to cut ties with them; and besides, that is too divisive.  What I can say is set boundaries.  Don’t allow them to overstep your bounds.  Put your... Continue Reading →

Dear Black Woman Hiding Her White Husband

Dear Black Woman Hiding Her White Man,  True love is not racist.  It is untamable; it knows no borders.  It is unstoppable; it can’t be restrained.  It is unmistakable; it can't be hidden.  Love is where you find it.  And when you find it, NEVER let it go!  Black with Black, White with White or Black with White, it doesn't... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with the Generational Curse

Dear Woman with the Generational Curse,Listen… it stops HERE… today!  You must END this!  Generational curses feel a sense of entitlement in people’s lives because NO ONE DARE TO FACE THIS LION.  It creeps into the tiny door it finds.  It takes root.  Then it starts to disintegrate generation after generation.  It deteriorates your advancement, your happiness... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman who picked the Wrong Man

Dear Woman Who Picked the Wrong Man, Shit!This is where I draw a blank.  There is too much at stake for me to give you common and generic advice.  Do I tell you to leave him, knowing very well that you want to stay?  Should I remind you of all the reasons why you must go NOW?... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman Wounded by Church

Dear Woman Wounded by Church,  If I can count how many times I've been hurt by church, I wouldn't have any pieces of my heart left and I sure wouldn't have enough of me left.  Church is not for the weak; believe me when I tell you.  It is a place where people who are MESSED up gather.  Hence,... Continue Reading →

Dear Women In Politics

Dear Woman in Politics,They used to say, “This is a Man’s World.”  Now we say “But it would be nothing, nothing without a woman or a girl.”  While this seat is often occupied by men, it can also be occupied by you. You too have got what it takes. You too belong here.  Don’t be intimidated.  You deserve a... Continue Reading →

Dear Independent Woman

Dear Independent Woman,I’m here for it.  Get your degree!  Get your career!  Get your house!  Get your dream car!  Girl, get it all!!!!  But remember to leave room to be a little dependent.  While independence is praiseworthy and dependency becomes this abnormality, I'm starting to see that being independent has been handicapping our society instead of freeing it.  The "I can do life all... Continue Reading →

Dear Baby Mama Vol 2.

Dear Baby Mama, The last letter that I addressed to you got into the hands of someone else.  She reached out on your behalf to remind me there is “pain and hurt” behind your actions.  She also summoned to my memory that you’re the victim and not the villain. So, I’m addressing another letter to you... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman Behind the Influential Man

Dear Woman Behind the Influential Man,  Roots often go unnoticed.  Meanwhile, the fruits are enjoyed.  The stage crew goes overlooked all the time.  Meanwhile, the production and actors are praised.  And you, my fair lady, are no different.  Your husband gets all the accolades and you go unremarked.  If no one ever tells you this, thank you!  Thank you for how well... Continue Reading →

Dear Prayer Warrior

Dear Prayer Warrior, One of life's hacks is having a praying lifestyle.  You understand this so well.  I find it quite admirable.  But, have you ever prayed for something and with time, you completely forgot about it?  Ever prayed for something and when you got it you didn’t want it as much as you did when you prayed... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman who Hates her Stepdaughter

Dear Mother who Hates Her Stepdaughter,  Ou, Chile!  I heard that you hate your stepdaughter because you fear that she will preoccupy all of your husband’s love and that your daughter will compete with his daughter.  You aren’t wrong for feeling the way you do; there is no judgement here.  But I hope you can channel a healthier... Continue Reading →

Dear Sugar Baby

Dear Sugar Baby,  What I’m not going to do is judge you.  As a matter of fact, this isn’t even my business.  So, pardon me if I’m coming off a bit condemnatory. Trading sexual favors for a lavish way of life is not good commerce.  It shows a reflection of exploitation, prostitution, and who knows, maybe trafficking.  This lifestyle... Continue Reading →

Dear BabyMama with the Drama

Dear BabyMama with the Drama,  I know you feel an intense or passionate dislike seeing the man who destroyed your life live his best life. You hate the fact that he threw you out and now you vow to make him pay. I know it is wounding — but that doesn’t mean you are justified when you... Continue Reading →

Dear Sister in Law

Dear Sister-in-Law, If you could be so kind to just treat me right… I would appreciate it. It may be that you don’t feel like your brother made the right choice. Perhaps you would rather have had a sister-in-law that was much more refined, educated, and sophisticated. SIS...IT! IS! TOO! LATE! FOR! THAT! I'm sorry that I don’t... Continue Reading →

Dear Me

I don't tell you this enough... Whether you have hair or not You're beautiful! You're enough I love you... Always!

The Dependent Me

The Dependent Me The Dependent Me is me operating in my true blueprint.  While independence is praiseworthy and dependency becomes this abnormality, I'm starting to see that being independent has been handicapping our society instead of freeing it. It evokes in people an "I can do life by myself" attitude.  Phrases like "I can raise... Continue Reading →

The Incarcerated Me

The Incarcerated Me  The Incarcerated Me is in a personal prison.  My very own prison that I have built with my own mind.  NO ONE can hurt me but ME.  The doors are locked.  No one can help me... I'm my worst critic - nothing I do is ever good enough.  Excellence isn't good enough... Continue Reading →

The Damaged Me

The Damaged Me  The Damaged Me is held in captivity by my pain, my past, and my people.  Together, they have a way to affect me with paralysis... unable to move forward and inhibits the hope for a better future. Pain, honestly, we weren't built for it.  Once we have pain... we cry... we give... Continue Reading →

The Online Me

The Online me  The Online Me is really not who I am... it is who I wish I could be... the me that I want people to see, know, and remember.  The online me is a facade, veneered to look appealing and at times to be hungered after. I've dissolved that if I can fake... Continue Reading →

Broken Sister

When you grow up with someone... your next of kin, partner in crime, or best friend, you have a bond with this person like none other. You can communicate a whole story without muttering any words. If you are a big sister, you automatically become a second mom.If you are a little sister you, well you... Continue Reading →

1460 days…

It is painful to hear of the passing of Chadwick Boseman.It is shocking to hear that he was diagnosed with colon cancer 4 years ago.It is draw-dropping how the information was kept confidential.It is disheartening to hear of people's criticism towards him.It is inspiring to witness his resilience through those years.It is WOW just to... Continue Reading →

Broken Daughter

Well in advance, we know our parent(s) before venturing into the world meeting new people. From an early age we comprehend that our parent's role is to protect and nurture. Innately, we start to imitate our parents.Wearing my mother's pearls around my neck, barely walking in her oversized shoes, and applying her Ruby Woo lipstick... Continue Reading →

Broken Mother

Women are patterned to carry eggs, ovulate, menstruate, procreate, breastfeed, nurture, and MULTI-TASK. A Broken Mother can only offer the shattered pieces of herself. That's all she’s got to give. Broken mirrors and broken windows are often ineffective. In the same vein, broken mothers may not be as operative as they ought to be. We've... Continue Reading →


The word on the street is that Jada Pinkett-Smith had an affair; and all hell broke loose. When celebrities show a little transparency or expose a transgression or a misguided judgment, there is this veiled or equivocal reflection on their reputation. But in actuality, every married person is “entangled” in their own marital dysfunctions, whether... Continue Reading →

Broken Crayons Vol 2

The Genesis of my blog began with Broken Crayons. I talked about how many of us limit the potential of the crayon because it is broken. I dared my readers to see their potential despite their brokenness. Nearly three years later, I'm becoming more fully aware that brokenness has paralyzed many women from living their lives... Continue Reading →

Joel Delince – Stronger With Him

No other man can walk in Joel’s shoes. Sometimes, while he sleeps, I just stare at him… yup,  you guessed it. (Wink-wink!) The story before I liked him … We were friends, really good friends actually. We attended the same university, the same church, and we lived a few blocks from each other. Our commutes... Continue Reading →

Jeff Lindor – Stronger With Him

Our culture seems to have tolerated the world just as we found it. Few people have dared to face that lion and bring about reform. Jeff is one of the few. Wherever he is, there are no stones left unturned. He unsettles the dust. He has always been someone who cared for the community. All... Continue Reading →

Pierre Azor – Stronger With Him

Being the firstborn of a family, there are a plethora of burdens and obligations that one is imposed to carry. Being both a sibling and a parent to your siblings becomes an inevitable side effect. Firstly, you are more susceptible to your parents’ tough discipline. Then, there is the burden of going places because you have... Continue Reading →

James Holly – Stronger With Him

I first met James at a revival where he preached a sermon titled, “Stand Out, Don’t Fit In!” I must say that he lives up to that phrase. Not long after that, he became a member at my church and some time after, was elevated to Assistant Pastor. The first time we went out to... Continue Reading →

Yves Pierre – Stronger With Him

In the epoch of the exposures of pastor’s scandalous and reprehensible reputations, Yves Pierre upholds an unsullied reputation. Seventeen years ago, I walked into this church and never walked out. He managed to plant a church and for over 40 years, has been serving hundreds of people in Brooklyn NY. (Kudos!) He created a space... Continue Reading →

Duvenky Azzure – Stronger With Him

Azzure is a TERROR; let’s start with that. Growing up with him, he terrorized his siblings and I, like that time he put a live horseshoe crab under my bed while I was sleeping; or that time he swallowed a goldfish alive. Come to think of it, we would have it no other way. Without... Continue Reading →

Irventz Garçon – Stronger with Him

Catch Irventz on “Love Talks with the Garçons” co-starring his wife Anne, as they bring us behind the scenes of their marriage while giving advice, support, and hope. We all can agree that marriage is a tour de force. It requires lots of mental and emotional effort in order to cultivate a healthy one. Our... Continue Reading →

Renaldo Connor Jr. – Stronger With Him

I’ve had the privilege of changing his diapers and a greater privilege of bossing him around, just a tad. Renaldo Jr. is a little brother who could very well be granted the Big Brother Award. From the early age of 3, we discovered that he didn’t carry the “selfish” trait. If he went to the... Continue Reading →

Stronger with Him

For an evolved society so fascinated by and invested in progress, I find it contradictory that we’ve become a populous that have lost… our men. For far too long, we have suffered a shortage of good quality men. There is this disequilibrium, a higher demand than supply of good-mannered and natured men. But ladies, I... Continue Reading →

The Double Sided Story

The Double Sided Story As authors or fiction tellers, we hold the pen to a world of outcomes and possibilities. We get to tell the story how we want it to be told. Yet, the reader can interpret the story differently. In life, people often retell a story from their vantage point. Hence the adage,... Continue Reading →

Pocketing from our Pain

Pocketing off our Pain I’m in a quandary. Should I just scream? Should I cry? Should I write? Should I and more should I’s… I have so much to say but… but nothing seems to come out... … … … We are in a depth of despair. We seem to forget our frailty. We lose... Continue Reading →

The Color of Injustice

"MAMA! ... MAMA!" George Floyd screamed as he laid on the floor helpless with a police officer's knee pinned down on his neck. For 5 minutes and 58 seconds, we see a video retelling the narrative of George's final moments. "I can't breathe... please... I can't breathe... please... my neck hurts, my stomach hurts, everything... Continue Reading →

Lesson Learned

Life is a mystery. You just never know what you might get from day to day. Today might be a good day and tomorrow might be a not so good day. Each day we wake to the unknown. By the end of the day, we all would have learned something, something new or reminded of... Continue Reading →


Honestly... COVID19 is the reason I know the word "QUARANTINE". In fact, the first time I used it in a sentence, I butchered it. My husband had me repeat the sentence 3 times hoping I would catch it. Each time, I said the same thing. He ended up correcting me and we both had a... Continue Reading →

Hope for World

Do you remember Job? He has a whole book in the bible dedicated to him. Most people find the book too convoluted to understand. When I first read it I marveled at how God would allow him to go through these severe suffering. He lost everything he had. His children, his wealth, his possession, even... Continue Reading →

It is not ok… but it is going to be ok

These times are hard times, harder than anything we could ever imagine. It's been disturbing and distraught. I've ran out of comforting words to give to my friends. I've stopped listening to the news. I've been wiping and sanitizing surfaces like crazy. I've washed my hands more times than I can count. I've been eating... Continue Reading →

Make the Best of these days

Make the best of these days is really ironic. Where do we find any "best" during those days? The days have brought winds of emotions, complications and frustrations. As the story unfolds we have lost people and the people remaining have lost hope. Hope... A thing in the past. Were we a populous who put... Continue Reading →

For the Grieving World

These past couple of weeks have been a CALAMITY...  ALL of this to me are scenes directly from a film as seen on TV. Seeing in right before my eyes is SURREAL and UNSETTLING. We've heard SHUTDOWN, QUARANTINE, COVID POSITIVE, RIP so much we've become completely numb. Social distancing for some is much needed but... Continue Reading →

Congratulations to the Woman Next Door

Yes, South Africa’s very owned Zozibini Tunzi was crowned Miss Universe 2019. Beautifully executed! Mes compliments ma belle. There has been a flooding of congratulations, shares, and posts on my social media feed and suddenly, she is now trending. She is the new face of the Universe with “cheuveux crepus” and yet globally accepted. I'm... Continue Reading →

The Eulogy

“You will never see a U-Haul behind a hearse.” Denzel Washington Hearing of the death of someone always induces a wave of sadness; whether it is personal or not. It even has the ability to make you relive the death of a close one. At funerals, the easiest and most relieving portion is the eulogy.... Continue Reading →

I got my Own Sewage

Leave it to me to bring you a post with a title that got you SMH-ing! Lets get it started shall we? Ever noticed that EVERYONE comes to YOU to solve all THEIR problems? Their ministry is sinking, they all on you. They’re planning a party they call you. They catch their husband cheating and... Continue Reading →

Heartless Humanity

I've watched one of the most gut-wrenching videos today. A man who is expressing his happiness that Kobe Bryant passed away. Apparently, it is a "good story" the story of the athlete's passing. His reason, "he raped a girl." Is this what our society have become??? - a heartless generation full of vengeance and emptied... Continue Reading →

Dear You

Dear You, Life is more like a dystopia than utopia, imperfect rather than perfect - with injustice, grief, disease, wrath everywhere. I used to believe that everyone was living a great complication and problem-free life… except … except me. I've reasoned that if my problems were fixed perhaps I would be living a great life... Continue Reading →

Dear B!@#$%

Dear B!@#$% We ALL have been called that at least once in our lifetime, behind our backs, in someone's thoughts, in public, on television and even in church. It comes in many forms, to vilify and demean women and at times it serves as a term of endearment. Be that as it may, cover all... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with the Communal Vagina

Dear Woman with the Communal Vagina, You have been intimate with ever man inquiring for the encounter. You sacrifice the most tender part of your body and vulnerability. You don’t get paid, so it is not a job for you. You cry at times, so it is not fun and enjoyable for you. I've just... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman who has lost her World

Dear Woman who has lost her World, I'm writing this letter to you Vanessa, Nathalia, Bianka and Capri Bryant because your king and princess didn't come home yesterday. To you Alexis Altobelli who've lost her father, mother and sister. To the two Mausers daughter who lost their mom, to the Chester and Zobayan family who've... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman battling Infertility

Dear Infertile Woman. I'm sorry on the behalf of all the needy and curious people who constantly make their way to bring you more sorrow than you can bear. We see you, woman who makes everything easy and yet battles with your siege in the shadows. We, the people have exhumed all the dead hopes,... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman on Gov’t Assistance

Dear Woman on Gov't Assistance, Many people are disparaging you, criticizing you because you're not independent. I've come to terms that we are all dependent in our own rights (borrowed books from the library, free school lunch, financial aid, reduced metrocards, medicaid/care, Sally Mae, bank loans, credit cards, car lease, slept on someone else's couch,... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with Addiction

Dear Woman with the Addiction, We are entering a judgment free zone. EVERY woman has an addiction, every single one of us. Most of us choose to be in denial of this addiction's existence and dominion. In the meantime, it is deteriorating our motherly instincts, our nurturing nature and our self-care reflexes. It brings us... Continue Reading →

Dear Cheating Wife

Dear Cheating Wife, It used to be a myth that only men cheat. You've completely debunked this tale. Adhering to the unembellished facts, women cheat all the more and even more devastating than men can. Your husband doesn't deserve this, no matter WHAT he did to you. I'm sending you this letter to request you... Continue Reading →

Dear Pastor’s wife

Dear Pastor's wife, Working in tandem with your husband have gotten you prestige and an avalanche of grief. Perhaps you wish you could get a do-over just to acquire peace of mind and be safeguarded from gossip and acrimony. The congregation seems to have a lot to say about the length of your dress, the... Continue Reading →

Dear Insecure Woman

Dear Insecure Woman, I will brief you on this new found evidence, even the most confident woman have an insecurity that she is carrying around. They just know how to channel it. License your strength and beauty mark be dominant. Subdue your weakness and flaw to be recessive. While you are insecure about whatever that... Continue Reading →

Dear Single Mother

Dear Single Mother, You are totally underpaid. You get one salary to be a mom, a dad, the cleaning lady, a tutor, the laundry lady, a therapist, a chef, the annoying lady, the alarm clock, the breadwinner, the unfair lady, a mediator, an inspector gadget. You do it all for your children and at times... Continue Reading →

Dear Homewrecker

Dear Home-wrecker, I won't blame you for their failing marriage but you aren't entirely innocent either. Please stay in your lane. Don't go crashing into someone else's home. Whether it is the thrill of the affair, steamy sex or having a man with no wifely duties. That woman worked too hard for you to come... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with Daddy Issues

Dear Woman with Daddy Issues, Just because your biological father rejected you doesn't mean God rejects you. Your father may have been alienated, absent and abusive. But God got you. You don't need validation from men. You no longer have to lean on a man to help you deal with abandonment issues. It is time... Continue Reading →

Dear 35, Horny & Single

Dear 35, Horny and Single, Beside the hormones fuming, you are fighting this clock. Tick … tock … tick … tock…your internal clock ticking. I get it. You are getting old, with degrees stacked, bag secured, home purchased. This unyielding “clock” and hormonal rage can bring you to a point of desperation. Don't let it.... Continue Reading →

Dear High Maintenance Woman

Well... if the truth be told... you are overwhelming. Too hard to please. Too hard to love. Too hard to forgive. Too choleric to understand. Too hard to get along with. Too of everything! Extra sensitive! Extra emotional! Extra defensive! Extra bossy! Extra everything! So, we all, the community at large have a request, please... Continue Reading →

Dear Big Girl

Dear Big Girl, You know… your weight doesn’t decrease or increase your value. You have to place your happiness above all else. If this extra donut makes you happy while the whole world is cringing, you better savory and enjoy every bite. But, if after you've eaten this donut, it makes you emotionally unhappy, it... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman wanting Implants

Dear Woman wanting Implants, I want you to know, you were born with enough. You don't have to add to "you". Extra boobs, bigger lips, extra posterior are but unnecessary burdens. Adding an extra derriere will make it hard to find a good pair of jeans to fit just right. Big synthetic lips, aren't that... Continue Reading →

Dear Angry Black woman

Dear Angry Black Woman, In this culture you have two things that are fighting against you - "Black" and "woman." You are a woman, some view you less than and some view you as a threat. Two, you are an African American, some view you as a melaninnaire, opulent with melanin and armored with resilience.... Continue Reading →

Dear Feminist

Dear Feminist,  Feminism has been converted to more of a “trend” and “brand” than a movement. To the movement, kudos! To the brand, who profess no need for a man, I'm not taking shots, just food for thought: Do you really want equal rights with men? Do you want to do exactly what they can... Continue Reading →

Dear Virgin

Dear Virgin, In this over-sexualized society and pop culture,  it is frowned upon to be a woman of virtue, practicing abstinence. "If you aren't having sex... something must be wrong with you or clearly no man finds you worthy for the act." Contrary to popular belief, purity is still a virtue. Though purity is depreciated,... Continue Reading →

Dear Gossiping Woman

Dear Gossiping Woman, I heard that you're the best advertiser there is. Thought, I'd reached out and let you know that I need you for my business. Not my personal life but I just started a brand new business. I was wondering since you are spreading my personal business for free if you wouldn't mind... Continue Reading →

Dear Mrs Divorcee

Dear Mrs Divorcee, I'm not here to tell you whether to remarry or not. Not my business! But I will say this, don't let the shame and humiliation that comes with this bring you into a state to depression. Carrying loads of regret or blame are the straw that will break your back. You have... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with the little titties

Dear Woman with the little titties, The size of the mammaries don't make the woman nor esteem her value. Thus, don't ever feel like you have to overcompensate. Don't listen to the media whispering to you to get bigger ones. Tiny, small, big, huge, they all work the same. Don't let any man cripple your... Continue Reading →

Dear 16 & Pregnant

Dear 16 & Pregnant, I'm sure this was not what you would have wanted. But it happened and life continues. This is going to be a tough couple of years for you, a very maturing phase. Your peers may forsake you. Your parents will be disappointed. Shame may follow you. You are going to get... Continue Reading →

Dear Domestically Abused

Dear Abused, Don't stay for the abuser. Don't stay for the home you've built. Don't stay for the kids. Don't stay for love. Leave for you. One day, you will love you for it. Sincerely, If you need help, don't hesitate - Domestic violence hotline: 1−800−799−7233    

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