Renaldo Connor Jr. – Stronger With Him

I’ve had the privilege of changing his diapers and a greater privilege of bossing him around, just a tad. Renaldo Jr. is a little brother who could very well be granted the Big Brother Award. From the early age of 3, we discovered that he didn’t carry the “selfish” trait. If he went to the store with our father, he’d ALWAYS bring something back for all of us (even our father was impressed at his noble spirit from such a young age). He innately put people before himself. Though he is younger than I, I find much aspiration in his life.


Here goes my virtual interview with Renaldo Jr:

How do you keep your feelings from clouding your decision-making?
First I acknowledge what I am feeling and then I take the time to analyze how these feelings can affect my thinking and mislead me, whether it be by fear, anger, sadness or even happiness. Emotions are usually temporary so I always like to take a step back when dealing with a subject that may affect me emotionally and re-address it when I have had the time to evaluate the feelings I had towards the subject in question in order to make sure I make a decision that is not purely based on my emotions.

Who has influenced you the most and how?
The biggest influencer I’ve ever had in my life was my mother. She did not have the easiest life to say the least, but she always stayed strong and she always kept her faith. Growing up until this present day I still try to apply her wisdom.

What would you do differently if given the opportunity?
If I had to change one thing in my life I would have taken the time to listen with a lot more attentiveness to the lessons my mother tried to teach me. It is true that I do remember a lot but if I knew in the moment how valuable they really were, I wouldn’t have taken it for granted.

100 years from now, what do you hope to be remembered for/as?
I would like people to remember me as someone simply filled with love and compassion. It’s the best thing we can have and should have. It’s what makes us human and it’s what keeps us together. Love searches for peace, it is patient, it is kind, it is thoughtful. Love to me is the answer to some of the biggest questions we may have in life.

What hope do you have for younger black men growing up in America?
I hope that they take the time to realize that life is very short and it is precious. And that they’ll never get another shot at it. Living in a world where there is so much cruelty and lack of compassion for innocent black men, they should try not to be one of the guilty ones that others use as an excuse to condone their own racism and  bad behavior.

We are stronger with Him! It is his compassion and clemency that we can take away. His forbearance and ability to instantly forgive someone is unmatched. Forgiveness is very much needed in the world. Give more of it than you want to receive it. Love BIG or go home.
Cheers to a Legacy of love!
Visit him in Tours, France

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