Dance with the BIG girls

Dance with the Big Girls The Christmas Eve production at my church was good this year. My favorite part was a praise dance by the little girls age 7-9. These girls walk on the stage and lined up. Then they added this little girl in the middle. Based on her outfit, a few things were... Continue Reading →

When he goes HIGH you go low

When he goes high you go low. Ladies, this one is for you. Actually, all of my posts are for you. But this one is a special one. Michelle Obama gave one of the best speeches in World history. I don’t intend to talk politics on my posts, we have enough controversial topics as is.... Continue Reading →

Please, Stop Praying!

Let me start this post with a disclaimer: I love God and I love prayer. Now that we’ve got this out of the way, let’s get started. I don’t know if conservative Christians will concur with this post. However, I know that this post doesn’t retract from the truths of the Bible but supports it.... Continue Reading →

The Pain, the Pill, the Legend

The Pain, the Pill, the Legend  Pain is painful, if that makes any sense. There is nothing worst than pain, an intense agony decaying one’s peace. Pain is also powerful; it controls people’s mind and may even remove the human instinct of compassion. Pain kills people and causes people to kill others. One who is... Continue Reading →

Throw the Whole Kiki Away

If you have never found out who Kiki is, that is ok. I haven’t either. Kiki just become famous over the summer, courtesy of Drake being in his feelings. No one knows who she is. I even googled her, “Who is Kiki?” Finally found something that Google don’t know. Based on Drake’s unassertiveness Kiki doesn’t... Continue Reading →

Get out of her Uterus

“Get out of my pussy” is the title of one of the chapters of Gabrielle Union’s book, “We’re going to need more Wine.” In this chapter she vulnerably opens up about a wound that she had for a very long time, the infertility wound. She had eight or nine miscarriages. That’s enough pain for eight... Continue Reading →

Dead Roses

No one ever talks about dead roses. Roses are only praised for their beauty, their vibrant color and their fragrance. The dead roses are metaphors for dead romance, dead moments, dead anything that ought to be alive in relationships. They are untold non-fiction stories because fiction sounds so much more intriguing. Every relationship has them,... Continue Reading →

Custom made 

I would categorize myself as a persnickety person. Nothing is ever minor or trivial for me. I meticulously do the things that I do. When I started dress shopping, I knew what I wanted to look like as a bride. I spent nearly 11 months looking for my dress. I dragged my best friend around... Continue Reading →

The Inheritance

It brings comfort knowing that someone cared enough to leave you something. Something that you have not worked for but they felt you were deserving of it. An inheritance. They leave money, real estate, and personal property for you. These endowments often leave people set for life. They may never have to work again. Struggle... Continue Reading →

Prayer Works, Always!

Contrary to popular belief, prayer works. Always has and always will. This is not my first blog post about prayer. I’m sure this won’t be the last, due to its importance, advantages and even its misconception. I was conversing with someone recently and they questioned the potency of prayer. This conversation sparked this post. I’ve... Continue Reading →

Dear Breast Cancer

Dear Breast Cancer, Meaning that this is my first time ever talking to you maybe this letter should be more welcoming and friendly. But, I can’t find it in me to be nice or cordial to you. You suck! Like, big time. The dictionary doesn’t have enough negative adjectives to describe you. You’re aggressive. You... Continue Reading →

Gorgeous Without It

I nearly had a nervous breakdown the other day. I took a picture on my phone, it came out really nice. I wanted to post it on Instagram but I had a little reservation. I had way too many flaws. My skin looked rough and tough. I could see the uneven skin texture. I was... Continue Reading →

Celebrate Yourself

I was talking to my baby brother the other day and he said, “I don’t think I’ve ever said this to you before, but I am proud of you. You’ve accomplished so much.” These words meant so much to me. I never actually took time to appreciate or celebrate my accomplishments. The delays, hurdles, self-disappointments,... Continue Reading →

Healing for a Grieving Friend

When someone loses a loved one, there is but a few words that you can give to comfort them. When someone loses a 9 month old baby there is absolutely nothing that brings comfort. There are no answers for any of their questions. There is nothing left but turmoil, barrenness and pain. That is where... Continue Reading →

The Empty Love Tank

For a myriad of decades, we, the people have been waking up with a grateful heart and smiles on our faces to be quickly vanished by CNN’s “Breaking News.” The news has been tremendously devastating. Whether you are in High School in Columbine Colorado, at the World Trade Center in New York City, in an... Continue Reading →

Just Ask

“The greatest tragedy in life is the prayers that go unanswered because they go unasked.” Mark Batterson. The genesis of Jesus’ miracles is embedded in John chapter 2. John tells us that Jesus and the disciples were invited to a wedding, which the name of the newlywed isn’t mentioned. During the reception, the wine runs... Continue Reading →

Who is invited to the Wedding?

The moment people know you're engaged, they've become the inspector gadget. They have many questions. “Have you set a date yet?” (Uhm, NOOOOOO! I got engaged just a few hours ago). Then the “How did he propose,” The “let me see the ring.” I'm ecstatic and thrilled to show off my hand to ANYONE who would... Continue Reading →

A Letter to Daddy

Dear daddy, my disciplinarian, There is a surfeit of great things to say about you but I just don’t know where to begin. A father’s love is so special to his daughter. As you know, you are very special to me. You told me how much you loved me and how beautiful I am daily.... Continue Reading →

Comparison Cripples Creativity

“Stop comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle” Trent Shelton Growing up as a little girl, I was always being compared with my peers. If it wasn’t one thing, it was another. I just wasn’t good enough. I hated it! I wanted to be me and me alone. I had numerous internal battles because I... Continue Reading →

Life comes with lemons, lemons with the most pits and the sourest lemon at that. The ones that are too lemony to make lemonade. Then, life comes with two kinds of surprises. We get those that put a smile on our faces and those that can break our hearts. For the most part, life is... Continue Reading →

Dont Jump

Life throws at us many curveballs and fastballs. Sneaky and Fast! Born today and an adult tomorrow. Fast! But life is a beautiful thing, with the ups and downs that come with it. Its days are like a box of assorted chocolate that you would receive on February 14th. Some are like the pecan crunch,... Continue Reading →

You Have to GROW Through It

“Nothing good comes easy” Renaldo Connor.  Imagine if you never did sit-ups, crunches, planks, would you ever have a six-pack? Working-out, going to the gym requires discipline and consistency. When the lactic acid builds up and burns, we still have to keep going. It is through this environment that we build muscle. It has to... Continue Reading →

Run – No Excuse for Domestic Violence

One of fondest memories I have of my mom is when we used to spend our whole Saturday watching Lifetime movies. What captivated us and kept us watching were the “based on a true story” tagline that introduced majority of the movies. One of the movies we watched was “A Cry for Help: The Tracey... Continue Reading →

I cannot Keep up with the Joneses

I cannot! For hundreds of years the Rockefellers, the Astors, and the Vanderbilts have been duplicating their wealth like the cytokinesis step in the Mitosis cell cycles, ranking them the richest Americans in History. Meanwhile, my bank account just went through the apoptosis stage, cell death. I cannot afford to care about my standard of... Continue Reading →

Urgently Needed

It is often said, “I don’t need a man… men need to step up…. Men need to take care of their responsibilities.” Whether it is true or false, that’s an argument for a different day. The belief of not needing a man is a myth in my opinion. Men are NEEDED, urgently needed. We need... Continue Reading →

This Jealousy thing is REAL

Jealousy is actually a thing… something that is actually ongoing and causing rot in our World. While people should be happy for other’s accomplishments, some find themselves hungered and angered for that success. Many women manage to forge the happiness they "have" for others. They are both envious and jealous. A jealous friend is like... Continue Reading →

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see. - Anonymous Our eyes are a set of organs that is indispensable to having an independent life. It gives us the ability to care for others and ourselves. It gives us the ability to admire all of God’s creativity in nature. All the while... Continue Reading →

The Ugly Me

Have you ever stood in front of the mirror and BAM out of nowhere you feel UGLY? Really, You haven’t? Hmm! Well, I have. And it sucks! I’ve looked in the mirror cringing at how I look. For as long as I can remember people always called me “ugly.” Sometimes, it wouldn’t affect me but... Continue Reading →

Please Keep It

Throwing things away is quite therapeutic. It is refreshing. It is like a new start, a breath of fresh air. We throw away ripped jeans, (well… not in this era) but, old shoes, old books, leftovers. We dispose of used things and damaged things. Then… there are some things that we need that we disappointingly... Continue Reading →

If I Can Only Be Like YOU

I went to Bloomingdales and purchased Coco Chanel Mademoiselle Parfum. It smells oh soooo good. Aside from being a shoe-aholic, I am a perfume enthusiast. If a lady is going to wear that little black dress accompanied with a nice pair of shoes, she is going to need a fragrance to compliment it. That is... Continue Reading →

Marie Lucille Azor – Stronger With Her

I’ve had a blast talking about 29 women who have had some great influences in my life. It is absolutely refreshing to know these ladies, the ones near and far. I look to them for inspirations, prayers, laughs and to carve out memories. As I close the curtain on the #StrongerWithHer Highlight, I couldn’t exclude... Continue Reading →


“Never postpone YOUR vision waiting on help.” – Trent Shelton You got ONE life to live. One Dream to pursue. One You, to make it happen. Everything else will fall into place in the opportune time. What are you waiting for to go for it? A million dollars? A friend? An invitation? Help? Your dreams... Continue Reading →

Deborah Lindor – Stronger with Her

It is often said, “behind every great man is a great woman.” Deborah has proven this to be so true. She demonstrates it oh so well. As her husband, Jeff has become one of the most influential men in our community she has tirelessly worked behind the scenes to help build this legacy. She makes... Continue Reading →

Lissa Matthieu – Stronger with Her

Elegance Extraordinaire! Modesty Overload! Are what come to mind when I think of Lissa. But, before I knew her as such, I knew her as a singer and praise and worship leader. We sadly live in a society where beauty is defined by all of our physical adornments, 20-inch bundles, pearls, Mac Ruby Woo lippie,... Continue Reading →

Mymose Connor – Stronger with Her

I met her in her womb. She is my mom, beautiful inside and out. When she walked in the room there was this vivaciousness that she had. She was graced with great panache and elegance. She was indeed, “une femme avec classe.” She had this thing about her that I thought was quite bizarre, she... Continue Reading →

M. Skye Holly – Stronger with Her

Looking at M. Skye from afar you will immediately detect her peaceful demeanor. She is a woman of few words… until you get to know her. She is quite an eloquent speaker who loves to talk to people. Upon every interaction with her, you will discover the amount of benevolence and sapience stored within her,... Continue Reading →

Danielle Gerestan – Stronger With Her

Moving to the United States was emotionally difficult for me. Being bullied all my teenage years, I dreaded starting over here in the U.S. Then I met Danielle just a couple of days after moving here. She's my very first friend and one of the best blessings that I received. I have yet to find... Continue Reading →

Manouchka Charles – Stronger With Her

Manouchka is everyone’s little sister; she’s good-natured, good-humored and good-hearted. She is teachable, musically tuned and loves people. As she led worship at the Well, I couldn’t help but notice her fire for God. Her decisions revolved around the plans that God has set for her. Moving to Miami was one of these decisions. If... Continue Reading →

As a Woman’s heart is, so is she

Do you remember the series of commercials, “What’s in your wallet?” I really enjoyed them. It has put things into perspective for me. The lesson that I amassed from it is that what’s in one’s wallet is important. Maybe it is an American Express, a Discover card, Visa or MasterCard, maybe it is just a... Continue Reading →

Tahisha Solages – Stronger with Her

I got a call one day, “turn on the TV to The Chew.” There was Tahisha, on air with so much life, excitement and confidence. She was in her element, doing what she loves, cooking, interacting with people and entertaining them. It was Creole Spicy Wings on the menu at The Chew that day. She... Continue Reading →

Stephanie Antoine – Stronger With Her

We often cite 1 Samuel 15:22, “obedience is greater than sacrifice.” But in the life of Stephanie they happen to co-exist. Her obedience is her sacrifice. After tying the knot with her husband Marc, she relocates to Haiti to stand by him as they labor in the Kingdom of God. This exhibits sympathy, selflessness, submission,... Continue Reading →

Sophia Brutus – Stronger with Her

At the age of 21 Sophia tied the knot with Jonathan. Sometime after that, during Hurricane Sandy, their home got flooded and they lost everything. At the age of 23 she graduates with her Doctorate degree in Pharmacy. This is quite an achievement. All the while being a daughter, sister, friend. Furthermore, she was active... Continue Reading →

Marlie Victor – Stronger with Her

As serene as Marlie is, she is a powerhouse. Her fervency in prayer gets God’s attention every time. One of the biggest emotions that Jesus ever shown was when “He wept.” This happened because He witnessed Mary, Lazarus’ sister, the woman who lavished His feet with her hair and oil, was broken. She loved Jesus... Continue Reading →

Anne Garçon – Stronger With Her

She is Anne to most, Mrs Garçon to some. But, to me, she is “SuperMom.” Prior to her becoming my SuperMom, I used to see her in our community functions. I loved attending Good Shepherd’s Youth Revival, a church pastored by her father. They had the best choir. For every revival, Anne would write a... Continue Reading →

Miriam Legrand – Stronger With Her

Life alone can be quite melancholic, boring and even painful. However with people like Miriam, life becomes utterly jubilant. She is that plus (+) sign that adds to peoples’ lives equaling it (=) to something positive. I admire her kindness and generosity. She keeps on giving. She keeps on adding. Then, there is Miriam’s candor,... Continue Reading →

Tabitha Brown – Stronger With Her

An invitation into her kitchen is always full of food, fun and faith. Tabitha’s life journey is a gold mine. As she cooks, wisdom and advice are being deposited in the lives of any who chooses to listen. It hasn’t always been easy for her. She’s had her fair share of failures, disappoints, heartaches and... Continue Reading →

I Don’t Want to Hear it

Let me tell you what my friend Jane told me just yesterday. But a little backstory, She’s been married to John for 15 years and together they have five kids. Three of them are my goddaughters. Now, fast forward to what she told me yesterday. She loves her husband but… the bliss has died and... Continue Reading →

Katherine Duplessis – Stronger With Her  

Our encounter began in South Shore High School. I was a misfit. She hung out with the “cool kids.” Typically, the “cool kids” are always deemed to be mean and bullies. That was not the case for Katherine. She was the congenial cool kid, very friendly and always had a happy expression on her face.... Continue Reading →

K. Jacky Jean – Stronger With Her

Jacky is a “pretty awesome human being” as she loves to remind me. Frankly, no reminder is needed as her benevolent character speaks on her behalf. She loves people and loves to spend time with them. It is quite a rare hobby for someone to have, given that technology has made it attainable to have... Continue Reading →

Fabiola Jean – Stronger With Her

As long as I can remember Fabiola has always desired being a media maven. It was something she talked about all the time. Especially when our friendship was beginning, we used to be train buddies in the morning on our way to work. Our conversation varied from goals, men, marriage, church and much more. It... Continue Reading →

Brunna Sejour – Stronger With Her

Multi-talented, multi-degreed and multi-fashioned are Brunna’s black belt. There is something gracious about her. Her sophistication, serenity and soft-spoken manner appraise her as a good-natured woman. She has a cultivated beauty.  She has a degree in Mathematics, Accounting and fashion designing. She is a praise dance Extraordinaire. You go girl! Currently, she added ballet to... Continue Reading →

Winnie Pierre – Stronger with Her

We are often ecstatic when we look at our harvest, the fruits that are on our tree. But, we generally forget that there wouldn’t be any harvest if there weren’t any sowers. Winnie is a sower. For over a decade, she has been sowing seeds in my life. She’s an epitome of what a woman... Continue Reading →

This Woman

This woman… This woman is full of essence This woman is full of brilliance This woman is full of radiance This woman is full of confidence There is something about her, this woman… it’s her allure This woman is full of beauty This woman is full of modesty This woman is full of creativity This... Continue Reading →

Celeste Charles – Stronger with Her

As Celeste stands in front of the pulpit at my church on a Wednesday night leading worship, she stops to share one of her most painful life events. She talks openly about a miscarriage and the brokenness she had. This was a devastating time for her and her husband Terrence. She shared about the emotional... Continue Reading →

Stacy Cesar – Stronger with Her

Compassion seeps out of Stacy’s pores. I recall when she first encountered Jesus. She would bring her notebook to Sunday school and she would transcribe everything that was deserving of being remembered. She was parched for Jesus. The more she learned about Jesus, the bigger her heart got. That’s what I admire about Stacy. She... Continue Reading →

Stephanie Jean Philippe – Stronger With Her

It all started with praise dance rehearsals of about 5 of us ladies. Followed by feasting on Chinese food with girl talk and jokes. It was then it started, it, the inspiration. Stephanie is quite an affable person, always smiling, always dancing. However, life wasn’t always a walk around the park for her. She went... Continue Reading →

Jennifer Sam – Stronger with Her

Creativity is the red viscous fluid that flows through Jennifer’s blood vessels. She is either entertaining people, playwriting, or playing with children. She is always encircled by children, no exaggeration. She is a preschool educator on weekdays. In the evening she goes home to care for her husband, Gerry and her two children, Geremiah and... Continue Reading →

Ndidi Nwagbara – Stronger with Her

Azzure brought Ndidi home one day, ecstatic because he has finally found the lady - the one that would be his perfect fit. We discovered that she was an aspiring microbiologist. Being a science major myself, I supported her and quickly bonded with her. A couple of years later, there was a sudden change in... Continue Reading →

Paulana Lamonier – Stronger with Her

Paulana has shades on her face, red lipstick well applied, a car full of fuel and is ready for the road to success. She will be "live in three, two, one." I met her in 2015 through our friend Michael Joseph. The first thing that stood out about her was her vivaciousness. Around her there... Continue Reading →

Stronger Together

“It’s possible to climb to the top without stomping on other people.” - Taylor Swift In lieu of my #StrongerWithHer posts this month, I would like to create stronger camaraderie amongst the women in my community by issuing this piece. Camaraderie among women of all backgrounds, ethnicities, race and age is much needed. It is... Continue Reading →

Kabrea Thomas – Stronger with Her

I attended an event last year called Women who Inspire Women. Kabrea was one of the vendors there. She is the Founder of Fashionably Yours and Signature Scents by Hand. She is a fashion and fragrance expert. She helps professionals learn how to stand out and feel confident in what they wear and how they... Continue Reading →

Myranda Barreau – Stronger With Her

Myranda’s laugh can be heard about two miles away. No better way to start this highlight about her. Her bubbly personality stands out very well. There is a genuineness about her that magnetizes people to her. One of her most valuable virtues is humility. She wears it well and this allows her to always see... Continue Reading →

Clean It Out

Winter is over and spring is here! We’ve been waiting for this season to arrive. It is time to get rid of the heavy coats, the Uggs boots. Time to put away the bulkiest sweater. Oh! It is time to clean out your handbag too. You know what handbag I’m talking about. The one that... Continue Reading →

Boaz is Looking for Ruth

  It is often mentioned that all women are waiting to meet their Boaz. He is both a prince charming and a knight in shinning armor. He is coming to sweep every lady off her feet. Betroth her and live happily ever after. Here is a disclaimer; Boaz is NOT for every woman. I’m not... Continue Reading →

Caution! Your Mouth is LOADED

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” This is probably one of the most fraudulent quotes I’ve seen. There is absolutely no truth in it. I would like to ask the author, “How many times have sticks and stones broke your bones?” Seeing that words can be really hurtful... Continue Reading →

Perfection is an Illusion

Perfection is an illusion. The sooner we can grasp this life changing verifiable truth, the sooner we can all live happily ever after. All my life I was made fun off because my nose is fairly too round and too big to be classified as a nose. As a teenager, this caused somewhat a mental... Continue Reading →

The Creeping Kryptonite

“What would you do if you weren’t afraid”- Sheryl Sandberg A myriad of people have been crippled by their kryptonite, that ultimate weakness that is miniaturizing their life: FEAR. We aren’t born with it yet it slowly creeps up in our lives. Fear is like untreated hypertension. The warning signs are disguised and long before... Continue Reading →

About Him

Lots of people have heard of him. They’ve heard me talked about him on numerous occasions. Him and I met and talked a few times. I was not interested. But it was clear that He liked me. He was showing a lot of interest in me. But I always shied away. Our best conversation took... Continue Reading →

Remember Lazarus

Last week, I got news that a friend of mine, Manouchka Charles, got into a serious car accident in Mexico and is in critical conditions. Family and friends here in the U.S. are frantic and we feel helpless. However, there is an overflow of love on our social media platforms. We are posting pictures, status... Continue Reading →

We are Melaninaire

We are Melaninaires  I love the skin that I’m in. It is beautiful and rich of melanin. Undeterred by how some people may feel about it, I will rock it until the day I breathe no more. Still, there are many women who don’t love the color of their skin because media tells them black... Continue Reading →

Greener Grass

Greener Grass  For those of you who’ve been looking over my fence and desiring my grass, let me take this time to be completely honest with you. My grass ISN’T always green. You just conveniently caught it at a good time. If anyone tells you their grass is ALWAYS green, don’t believe them. What they... Continue Reading →


Quite an unorthodox title, but, allow me to explain. Goalcast, a motivational website, has these amazingly inspiring stories of people who have had BIG failures that paved way for great triumphs. People like Thomas Edison, Tyler Perry, Jack Ma and so many more. In last week’s post I wrote, “There will be days when failure... Continue Reading →

Shield for the Fiery Days

It’s only been three weeks since we rang in 2018. You are probably still fueled and devoted to the newness, a move forward, and to building healthier habits. But be vigilant so you do not to fall into the same routines that you had before. You will run into different seasons in this New Year... Continue Reading →

The Hardest Thing for People To Do

The Hardest Thing for People To Do It’s not love. It’s not remembering. It’s not being kind. It’s not being patient. It’s not saying, "I'm sorry." But it is Forgiving!!! Have you ever held a grudge? Are you currently holding one? More often than not, I hear stories of victims refusing to grant pardon to... Continue Reading →


A considerable number of us have been waiting for January 1st. Waiting to bring into existence this “New Me” that everyone has been looking forward to. We are all programmed to wait on this day in order to bring the much-needed change, the New Year resolutions. Everyone all around the world are full of excitement,... Continue Reading →

Woman, You’re Priceless

  Have you ever purchased a diamond earring or diamond anything for $50? Yeah! Me neither. I’m a professional shopaholic. I’m currently thinking of attending an SAA (Shopaholic Anonymous) meeting. I constantly find my closet stocked with brand new clothing, many of which still have the tags on it, and have been sitting in my... Continue Reading →

Dear Innermy

Why do you listen to what people say about you? Whether they are true or false? Their words don’t validate you. They don’t pay your bills and they definitely did not endure nail-pierced hands for you. Don’t you know that when you heed to the naysayers, you are weakening your supernatural powers? Negative people and... Continue Reading →

Broken Crayons

“We are all a little broken. But last time I checked, broken crayons still color the same.” Trent Shelton Having something of value break is quite a familiar experience to many. Whether it’s a broken plate, an iPhone screen, an umbrella or a broken “self.” Anything that is broken is rarely suited to fulfill its function.... Continue Reading →

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