Dear You

Dear You, Life is more like a dystopia than utopia, imperfect rather than perfect - with injustice, grief, disease, wrath everywhere. I used to believe that everyone was living a great complication and problem-free life… except … except me. I've reasoned that if my problems were fixed perhaps I would be living a great life... Continue Reading →

Dear B!@#$%

Dear B!@#$% We ALL have been called that at least once in our lifetime, behind our backs, in someone's thoughts, in public, on television and even in church. It comes in many forms, to vilify and demean women and at times it serves as a term of endearment. Be that as it may, cover all... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with the Communal Vagina

Dear Woman with the Communal Vagina, You have been intimate with ever man inquiring for the encounter. You sacrifice the most tender part of your body and vulnerability. You don’t get paid, so it is not a job for you. You cry at times, so it is not fun and enjoyable for you. I've just... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman who has lost her World

Dear Woman who has lost her World, I'm writing this letter to you Vanessa, Nathalia, Bianka and Capri Bryant because your king and princess didn't come home yesterday. To you Alexis Altobelli who've lost her father, mother and sister. To the two Mausers daughter who lost their mom, to the Chester and Zobayan family who've... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman on Gov’t Assistance

Dear Woman on Gov't Assistance, Many people are disparaging you, criticizing you because you're not independent. I've come to terms that we are all dependent in our own rights (borrowed books from the library, free school lunch, financial aid, reduced metrocards, medicaid/care, Sally Mae, bank loans, credit cards, car lease, slept on someone else's couch,... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with Addiction

Dear Woman with the Addiction, We are entering a judgment free zone. EVERY woman has an addiction, every single one of us. Most of us choose to be in denial of this addiction's existence and dominion. In the meantime, it is deteriorating our motherly instincts, our nurturing nature and our self-care reflexes. It brings us... Continue Reading →

Dear Cheating Wife

Dear Cheating Wife, It used to be a myth that only men cheat. You've completely debunked this tale. Adhering to the unembellished facts, women cheat all the more and even more devastating than men can. Your husband doesn't deserve this, no matter WHAT he did to you. I'm sending you this letter to request you... Continue Reading →

Dear Pastor’s wife

Dear Pastor's wife, Working in tandem with your husband have gotten you prestige and an avalanche of grief. Perhaps you wish you could get a do-over just to acquire peace of mind and be safeguarded from gossip and acrimony. The congregation seems to have a lot to say about the length of your dress, the... Continue Reading →

Dear Insecure Woman

Dear Insecure Woman, I will brief you on this new found evidence, even the most confident woman have an insecurity that she is carrying around. They just know how to channel it. License your strength and beauty mark be dominant. Subdue your weakness and flaw to be recessive. While you are insecure about whatever that... Continue Reading →

Dear Single Mother

Dear Single Mother, You are totally underpaid. You get one salary to be a mom, a dad, the cleaning lady, a tutor, the laundry lady, a therapist, a chef, the annoying lady, the alarm clock, the breadwinner, the unfair lady, a mediator, an inspector gadget. You do it all for your children and at times... Continue Reading →

Dear Homewrecker

Dear Home-wrecker, I won't blame you for their failing marriage but you aren't entirely innocent either. Please stay in your lane. Don't go crashing into someone else's home. Whether it is the thrill of the affair, steamy sex or having a man with no wifely duties. That woman worked too hard for you to come... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with Daddy Issues

Dear Woman with Daddy Issues, Just because your biological father rejected you doesn't mean God rejects you. Your father may have been alienated, absent and abusive. But God got you. You don't need validation from men. You no longer have to lean on a man to help you deal with abandonment issues. It is time... Continue Reading →

Dear 35, Horny & Single

Dear 35, Horny and Single, Beside the hormones fuming, you are fighting this clock. Tick … tock … tick … tock…your internal clock ticking. I get it. You are getting old, with degrees stacked, bag secured, home purchased. This unyielding “clock” and hormonal rage can bring you to a point of desperation. Don't let it.... Continue Reading →

Dear High Maintenance Woman

Well... if the truth be told... you are overwhelming. Too hard to please. Too hard to love. Too hard to forgive. Too choleric to understand. Too hard to get along with. Too of everything! Extra sensitive! Extra emotional! Extra defensive! Extra bossy! Extra everything! So, we all, the community at large have a request, please... Continue Reading →

Dear Big Girl

Dear Big Girl, You know… your weight doesn’t decrease or increase your value. You have to place your happiness above all else. If this extra donut makes you happy while the whole world is cringing, you better savory and enjoy every bite. But, if after you've eaten this donut, it makes you emotionally unhappy, it... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman wanting Implants

Dear Woman wanting Implants, I want you to know, you were born with enough. You don't have to add to "you". Extra boobs, bigger lips, extra posterior are but unnecessary burdens. Adding an extra derriere will make it hard to find a good pair of jeans to fit just right. Big synthetic lips, aren't that... Continue Reading →

Dear Angry Black woman

Dear Angry Black Woman, In this culture you have two things that are fighting against you - "Black" and "woman." You are a woman, some view you less than and some view you as a threat. Two, you are an African American, some view you as a melaninnaire, opulent with melanin and armored with resilience.... Continue Reading →

Dear Feminist

Dear Feminist,  Feminism has been converted to more of a “trend” and “brand” than a movement. To the movement, kudos! To the brand, who profess no need for a man, I'm not taking shots, just food for thought: Do you really want equal rights with men? Do you want to do exactly what they can... Continue Reading →

Dear Virgin

Dear Virgin, In this over-sexualized society and pop culture,  it is frowned upon to be a woman of virtue, practicing abstinence. "If you aren't having sex... something must be wrong with you or clearly no man finds you worthy for the act." Contrary to popular belief, purity is still a virtue. Though purity is depreciated,... Continue Reading →

Dear Gossiping Woman

Dear Gossiping Woman, I heard that you're the best advertiser there is. Thought, I'd reached out and let you know that I need you for my business. Not my personal life but I just started a brand new business. I was wondering since you are spreading my personal business for free if you wouldn't mind... Continue Reading →

Dear Mrs Divorcee

Dear Mrs Divorcee, I'm not here to tell you whether to remarry or not. Not my business! But I will say this, don't let the shame and humiliation that comes with this bring you into a state to depression. Carrying loads of regret or blame are the straw that will break your back. You have... Continue Reading →

Dear Woman with the little titties

Dear Woman with the little titties, The size of the mammaries don't make the woman nor esteem her value. Thus, don't ever feel like you have to overcompensate. Don't listen to the media whispering to you to get bigger ones. Tiny, small, big, huge, they all work the same. Don't let any man cripple your... Continue Reading →

Dear Domestically Abused

Dear Abused, Don't stay for the abuser. Don't stay for the home you've built. Don't stay for the kids. Don't stay for love. Leave for you. One day, you will love you for it. Sincerely, If you need help, don't hesitate - Domestic violence hotline: 1−800−799−7233    

Dear Mother in Law

Dear Mother in Law, I promise you, we aren't out here to kill your sons. So let us cook him our meals even if it isn't as tasty as yours. Let us iron his clothes even if we barely know how. Don't shame us because we don't align with your standards of traditional housewives. He... Continue Reading →

Dear Pastor’s Daughter

Dear Pastor's daughter, Prodigal daughter, you've succumbed to the pressure of the title. You've slept with men you didn't even know their name. You've sold your body on a pole. You've snorted some of the interdict white powder... SO WHAT???!! Those who've judged you will somewhere down the line run into their own little dirty... Continue Reading →

Dear Nappy Hair

Dear Nappy hair, You are the girl with the good hair. You can braid it, perm it, lock it, fro it, curl it, flatiron it, its shrinkable - endless possibilities! Versatile hair is good hair. It is totally manageable, totally beautiful, totally presentable. and totally a handful. I love it. Embrace it!   Signed,

Dear Married Woman

  Dear Married Woman, By now... you have already come to the reality that marriage is work, a whole lot of work. Don't be unenthusiastic about this, put in the work. You aren't alone. One of the mistakes that is decaying our community is married women who prey on single girls. Please don't shame the... Continue Reading →

Dear Younger me

Dear younger me, Outrightly, you are a force. I mean it. Like a wind. You are a force. Invisible! Unscented! Yet... Powerful! Destructible! Invisible! Yup, you will be invisible for years. People won't be cognizant of your existence. No one will want to be your friend. You will be an unmitigated disaster. You will be... Continue Reading →

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